How Much Could Change If You Lived By This One Truth?

It’s the end of a long day.  You’ve expended your energy on grasping for straws of appreciation. You long to experience one ounce of being seen and known and deeply loved. You fall into bed empty and lonely. You’ve used up all your gifts for mere breadcrumbs that just don’t satisfy your hunger for more. …

Lessons From Our Third Grade Bullies

When I was in 3rd grade, we had a playground bully. Her name was Marcia and she was MEAN. She picked on me something fierce. My first instinct was always to run away, as far and as fast as I could. To this day, I thank God for the extra adrenalin push that got my…

Authenticity Over Approval is: Knowing Our Truth

Lately, I’ve been digging into the practice of knowing my truth; my wants, needs and desires. I’m frustrated that I keep getting stuck. Why do I find it so hard to put my finger on what I want and what I need? When someone asks me, I truly don’t have an answer. When I need to…

Mastering Hard Conversations

Can we talk about the four Totinos pizzas, two packages of double stuffed Oreos and the one gallon jug of Blue Bell Double Fudge Mint ice cream currently residing in my kitchen? They are the blaring alarm horns that something isn’t right in my life. Instead of handling a difficult situation – especially one that…

Home For The Holidays: How To Untangle From The Mess

  Have you stood at the doorway, staring hard at the happy little wreath, under the shadow of the glimmering Christmas lights, hearing the laughter and jingle bells from the other side and hesitated. Taking a moment to breath in the joy now because you know by the end of the festivities you will be…

The Unrelenting Intimacy of Obedience

Have you ever had a time in your life where everything feels so hard?! I don’t mean seasons with storm and tragedy, I just mean everyday life is a tedious uphill battle. Last year, every area of my life was a struggle – like swimming upstream. I had no creativity in my writing, I struggled…

Exposed

I’m right. I know I’m right and if everyone would just stop and listen to me they would hear how right I am. They would know how brilliantly I’ve laid it all out in my head. The hours I’ve spent mulling and laboring over my right-ness. Now I’m delivering my case, giving a passionate plea…

Six Easy Tips To Survive Online Dating

This dating thing is hard, especially online dating. I swear some days I feel like I’ve been chewed up and spit out and then left for dead in a big gobby mess. Even so, I’ve learned in order to meet new people, online dating can be a safe and even fun way to get myself…

Two Words That Change Everything

So much of our time is filled with reaching, striving, working, decisions made harder because we want to do it right and not fail – at anything. Why, though? Why would failure or falling down be so bad? Because it would mess up who I think I am, how I define myself and more importantly…

I Am Single: From Defeat to Destiny

I am single. I am single. I am single. I am single. *sigh* Sometimes I think if I say it enough times, the truth of my singlehood may finally sink in. For the past 6 years, I’ve been “renting space” in the land of singleness. I haven’t quite settled in, hung the pictures on my…

On Open Letter to the Single Mom

Dearest Solo, Going solo is a roller coaster, isn’t it? You may find yourself crying behind the bathroom door, shut away so your children won’t see your tears. Sometimes, you sit through jam sessions with your married friends and rejoice you haven’t lost a wink of sleep because you don’t share a bed with a…

Raw: Finding Rest When I’m Running

Raw, unfiltered, unedited and often a bit icky, I am spilling my guts onto the table directly from the pages of my journal. Everyone has them (yucky guts), I just like to take them out, examine them, write about them, show them to God and then stuff them back in – hopefully a little more…